Boosting Self-Worth In Co-Dependent Relationships.

As human beings, we all crave connection and love. It’s a fundamental part of our nature to seek out relationships and build bonds with others. Still, it is essential to remember that our most important connection and relationship is the one with ourselves. Prioritising our partner’s needs over our own can lead us toward co-dependency. While it’s essential to care for those we love, it’s equally important to prioritise our well-being and self-worth.

Often there is a predisposition or inclination towards developing co-dependent behaviour and relationships due to various factors such as upbringing, past traumas, and personality traits. We may feel guilty or ashamed when we struggle to assert our boundaries or struggle with negative self-talk and doubt. These patterns can take a severe toll on our self-worth and leave us feeling depleted and unfulfilled.

Understanding our co-dependent relationships might take time, effort, and a deep commitment to our well-being. Interestingly, self-care and prioritising ourselves improve the quality of our relationships with others.

Here is some food for thought for boosting self-worth in codependent relationships:

Recognise the behaviour patterns.

The first step towards breaking free from co-dependency is to recognise the behaviour patterns. This requires a deep level of introspection, awareness and honesty with ourselves. We may start looking at things from a different angle, ask ourselves tough questions and be willing to face uncomfortable truths.

For example, we may ask ourselves if we feel like losing touch with ourselves or sacrificing too much for others. Are we putting our own needs on hold to prioritise theirs? Do we feel guilty or ashamed when asserting our needs and boundaries? If the answer to these questions is yes, it may be time to look closely at our relationship dynamics.

Set healthy boundaries

Setting healthy boundaries is an essential component of any healthy relationship. It allows us to communicate our needs and desires clearly and assertively. This can be uncomfortable or scary, especially if we’re used to putting our partner’s needs first. However, it’s important to remember that our needs are just as valid as our partners, and setting boundaries is not selfish but necessary for our well-being.

When we set healthy boundaries, we send the message to ourselves and our partners that our well-being matters and is worth investing in. It may take some time for our partner to adjust to these new boundaries, but ultimately, it will lead to a more balanced and fulfilling relationship.

Practice self-care

Self-care is a powerful way to boost our self-worth and prioritise our well-being. It involves taking intentional actions to care for our physical, emotional, and mental health. This can take many forms, such as engaging in regular exercise, getting enough sleep, practising mindfulness, or prioritising the hobbies and interests that bring us joy.

When prioritising self-care, we tell ourselves we’re worth investing in. We’re acknowledging that our well-being matters and that we’re deserving of love and care. Self-care can also help us to cope with the stress and challenges of codependent relationships and build resilience in the face of adversity.

Cultivate a new sense of self.

Co-dependency can often lead to negative self-talk and self-doubt. We may feel we need to be better or deserve love and respect. When dealing with these negative thoughts, it’s essential to cultivate a constructive self-image.

We can do this by focusing on our strengths and accomplishments. We can take time to acknowledge our successes, no matter how small they may seem. We can surround ourselves with people who uplift and encourage us and limit our exposure to those who bring us down. By cultivating a constructive self-image, we’re reminding ourselves that we deserve love and respect and have value and worth as individuals.

Seek support

Breaking free from co-dependency can be difficult, and seeking support along the way is essential. This can take many forms, such as therapy, support groups, or talking to trusted friends and family members.

Talking about our experiences and feelings can help us to process our emotions and gain new insights into our behaviour patterns. It can also give us a sense of community and validation, knowing we are not alone in our struggles.


How Therapy Can Support Boosting Self-Worth In Codependent Relationship

Transpersonal therapy recognises the spiritual and transcendent aspects of human experience and encourages us to tap into our higher selves to find meaning and purpose. It can help us connect with our inner wisdom and intuition, making more conscious and empowered choices in our relationships.

Integrative therapy, on the other hand, combines different therapeutic approaches to address the whole person – mind, body, and spirit. It recognises that we are complex beings with many different aspects to our being and that healing requires a holistic approach.

Together, transpersonal and integrative therapy can support us in various ways to boost our self-worth in codependent relationships. Here are a few examples:


Transpersonal and integrative therapy can provide a safe and supportive space for us to explore our beliefs, values, and experiences. This self-exploration can help us to identify the root causes of our co-dependency and to uncover any limiting beliefs or patterns that may be holding us back.

Inner-child work

Co-dependency often stems from childhood experiences, such as neglect, abandonment, or trauma. Transpersonal and integrative therapy can support us in inner-child work, where we connect with our younger selves and heal wounds or traumas from the past. This can help us cultivate a sense of self-compassion and self-love, which is essential for boosting our self-worth.

Mind-body-spirit connection

Transpersonal and integrative therapy recognise the interconnectedness of the mind, body, and spirit. We can heal more deeply and holistically by working on all three levels. For example, we may incorporate mindfulness practices, such as meditation or yoga, to help us connect with our bodies and quiet our minds. We may use visualisation or energy work to support our spiritual growth.


Co-dependent relationships can take a toll on our self-worth and well-being. However, we can break free from these patterns and prioritise our needs and desires with intentional effort and commitment. By recognising our behaviour patterns, setting healthy boundaries, practising self-care, cultivating a constructive self-image, and seeking support, we can boost our self-worth and create fulfilling and balanced relationships. Remember, you deserve love and respect, and your well-being matters.


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